Not Every Moment Needs a Plan

Today I chose not to do something — and that was the special thing I did for myself.

My oldest son’s last baseball game of the season was scheduled for this evening.  Since he really likes playing baseball and had already missed several games due to a family vacation, we had obviously planned to go.  Then an unexpected invitation came for all three of my kids to play with a special family whose kids are the same ages and genders as mine.  To top it off, I’d get some (invaluable) kid-free time!

I enjoyed my (quiet) afternoon with my sister, who only gets to visit about twice a year, and my mom.  This alone brought me joy!

As evening approached, I realized I’d have to choose between breaking up the dynamic play date so my son could make it to his last baseball game — or miss the game.

I know it really isn’t a big deal.  But truly, I can make anything a big deal if I allow myself!

 I know it really isn’t a big deal. But truly, I can make anything a big deal if I allow myself!

I paused as I began to stress about choosing between copping out on a team commitment versus prematurely pulling (and upsetting) kids away from their rarely visited bosom buddies.

I vocalized to my mom and sister my thoughts of wanting to simplify and be in the moment instead of going, going, going without greater intentions.  They pointed out that not only are my kids enjoying this moment, creating memories and strengthening bonds, but I too am enjoying myself without dashing about shuttling my kids from place to place.

Simplify.

Decide what is most important.

Normally I would have rushed to pick them up and feed them — creating stress for all of us –then hightailed it to wherever we needed to be, even if it was not where we actually wanted to be.

Not this time.  Not this moment.

When my kids returned, they were thrilled with their play date.  I was rejuvenated from my time, as well.  It even turned out that my son arrived with just enough time for me to take him to his last game!

The significant point is this: game or not, I chose not to stress about it.  I chose to quiet my usual thoughts insisting that no matter what, we can’t miss the game/practice/meeting/activity/event/etc. 

Guys, my son is 9.  He is going into the fourth grade.  Nothing catastrophic would have happened if he had missed his last game.  They don’t even keep score at this age!

I need to stop keeping score with (or against) myself so much.

To stress or not to stress, that is the question.  Especially with little things.  And frankly, most things in our lives truly are little.

Not every moment needs a plan.

Some of life’s most meaningful, joyful and memorable moments can’t be planned.

Not every moment needs a plan.

Some of life’s most meaningful, joyful and memorable moments can’t be planned.

So, let’s all try to relax — and enjoy — a little more.  It’s summer after all!

All of us control freaks need to take a deep breath … now let it out … and let some aspects of life — and our day — just be.

 

How do you simplify?  I’d love any suggestions or insights!

 

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2 Comments

  1. Julie says:

    Great post! ❤️

    1. stephanieherb says:

      Thanks and thank you for reading it!

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